As you may recall, my wife was a touch hyper last week. Lizzie was coming to visit and a decree had gone out from Caesar that the house was to be made spotless.
Naturally I played my part. Although the old short term memory must be playing up again – I can’t quite remember what I did.
Cleaned the shower? It was on my list but somehow Beverley beat me to it.
Cleaned the top of the cooker? That was my first job. Me and Mr Muscle. We’re old mates. Work well together. Did I actually do it? Er… see above.
Ah! It’s all come flooding back to me. I fixed the kitchen cupboard doors. A few of them were getting a touch loose. Didn’t want Alex’s new girlfriend wandering round with a cupboard door in her hand.
Actually… strike that word ‘new.’ I’m not sure when the relationship officially started – and obviously Alex sees no need to inform me – but early March is my guess. So they’re about four months in. And they spent six weeks of lockdown together.
I reckon a week spent locked down together is worth a month in normal life.
“More like a year, you mean.” May as well write it now: save my wife the trouble of adding it when she’s proofreading…
So not new to Alex. But new to us.
Eighteen months ago the Beloved Daughter came home with Could Be Serious. Now they’re looking at houses.
And here’s Alex. Walking out of the station with Lizzie. And he’s carrying her bag.
It’s one thing I admire in my youngest son. He’s a gentleman: he’s protective and considerate.
My dad must be looking down with a broad smile. He’d approve of Alex. “Walk on the outside,” he always said to me. “A gentleman always walks on the outside of the pavement.”
“Why?” I said.
“To protect the lady’s dress against splashes from a passing horse and cart. And so he has his sword-arm free.”
I was an argumentative, sarcastic little sod as a teenager. You can guess my response.
But now I’m older and wiser I realise the reason didn’t matter. It was a courtesy, a mark of respect, of caring. And I see that in Alex. He opens car doors. Small gestures, a hand on her shoulder. He’s solicitous, he cares. I love to see it.
Almost as much as I love to see cream all over the kitchen floor.
Monday night. Lizzie had cooked for us. A lovely meal – butternut squash risotto. One of the recipes that made sure Alex spent lockdown with a smile on his face.
Now we’re clearing away.
Suddenly there’s a blood-curdling scream from the kitchen.
Or maybe it’s not blood that’s curdling…
My wife, having told me that the house must be immaculate, has thrown a carton of cream all over the kitchen floor.
I rush to the scene. To help? To clean up? Of course. Once I’ve dabbed some Germolene on this nasty outbreak of schadenfreude…
Lizzie is right behind me.
And that’s the test, ladies and gentlemen. Will she get down on her knees and help you swab cream off the kitchen floor?
The answer is an emphatic yes…
So I offer that sage advice to all parents who may be meeting a new boyfriend/girlfriend in the coming weeks.
Don’t bother with all that small talk. Don’t try and tease out details about their ambitions or their intentions or their future prospects.
Just throw a carton of cream on the kitchen floor. The next two minutes will tell you all you need to know…